How To Make Your arrange Marriage Work

Match, set, go... easier said than done. Here I go again just thought a while how to make your arrange marriage work? So here is list tips by your HOST on ways to understand your partner better.

They say marriages are made in heaven. But then, there are also those made here on earth. Though an arranged marriage may feel like a pre-historic concept, such matches are still prevalent in society. Whether you marry someone you've fallen in love with, or someone your parents have chosen, as a couple you are bound to go through some ups and downs. It's just that if it's an arranged marriage, it may take you a tad longer to understand the thought process of your partner. If you are about to enter into an arranged marriage, here are some pointers you need to keep in mind:

 

Pre-marital jitters 

Pre-marital jitters are very common among couples who opt for an arranged marriage. And if you're experiencing them, ask yourself what is causing the anxiety. 

Among the most prominent reasons is the fear of sharing space and adjusting to a relatively unknown partner. Then, of course, is the fear of how to deal with a new family; how much you'd have to change your behaviour to adapt to their thoughts and habits. The best way to overcome this problem is by interacting frequently with your partner. It will put you at ease with your partner and also improve the intimacy between the two of you.

 

 Never complain 

An arranged marriage means more responsibilities and expectations. 

Both partners are under pressure to make the marriage work. Your partner may not share all your likes and dislikes and his/her family may not follow the same values as yours. You may be constantly corrected about the way things are done in this house. Relax! Fellas! Adjustment is the name of the game. Have a frank talk with your partner, list out your anxieties and figure out a way to do things without antagonising your new family. In the initial days of your marriage, don't take rude remarks or the seemingly harsh moves of your partner too seriously. Also, don't adopt the tit for tat philosophy. Stay away from troublemakers and look for allies. Also, don't complain or sound whiny to your partner. Remember, he/she is just as confused and nervous as you are. But dont even continue for long or else you will become slave to him/her.

 

The magic of love

As I stated in my earlier post

 

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Love is that essential ingredient that can help both of you overcome hurdles. If love at first sight hasn't happened, don't worry. It may take time, but you will grow to love each other. 

Even if you're in love already, don't expect your partner to immediately reciprocate the feelings. Give him/her time and work on how you can earn his/her love.

 

 

 Remember, marriage is like a whirlpool which takes one from a carefree world to a world filled with commitment and sacrifice; a world with love as its backbone.

 

My important suggestion for 

HUSBANDS- Dont lose temper easily we boys could control it well. Even when she is outraged dont lose your cool attitude. At such times just think in your mind

" cool cool cool cool cool" 

By doing it you will feel good. 

 

For wife- Please try to understand him. You are the real maker of the society so try to control every worse time with matuarity and sensibility. 

Just keep in mind one thing 

" I can do it just for HIM..."

 

 

 

How to improve your kid's HEALTHY HABBITS

 Gone are the days when mothers used to force feed their kids in a bid to see them plump and chubby.

Nowadays, healthy kids are just as important as smart kids. Time after time, studies have revealed that nutrition and exercise can uplift overall health while also improving academic performance. Today, with help of my mom and internet I framed a detailed low-down on sustainable and measurable health goals when it comes to raising health conscious kids. 

Teach them sports skills:

Introduction to various sports is the first step that any parent needs to instil in their kids. Kids sometimes talk about the sports that they would like to take up but they may not have the right skills for the same. Therefore, exploring various sports would be beneficial. After all, sports are skill based and work for strength, focus, agility, concentration and also double up as a good cardio workout for children.

Teach them persistence and crestivity:

When it comes to children, the mode is always 'follow the leader', therefore to see the change the parents need to change themselves first. 

Therefore, a 

healthy lifestyle consisting of mindful eating habits and following a good exercise regime plays a very important role as the child seeing this from the young age will only believe in this and it becomes a part of his/her lifestyle. Persistence is again a reflected quality and children being keen observer, will soon learn it from a parent.

Exploring equals to empowering: 

Parents should inculcate the habit of individuality in their children and allow them to use their brains instead of constantly spoon feeding them. Getting them to explore and experiment will not only bring upon individuality, but also improves their creative mind. A simple rhyming poem construction, painting, drawing, craft, storytelling related to health are the some of the things that one can start with. 

Right food for height and growth: 

The diet consisting of protein and calcium is essential for their bones and muscles.

Additionally, do give them plenty of water, fiber, vitamins and minerals and good carbs, which are required for complete nourishment. Along with this, outdoor activities are 

recommended as it places a positive stress on the bone density and increases the bone mass. Cycling, basket ball and swimming are said to be good exercise options for height gain in children.

Right food to build immunity: 

They should be given a diet rich in Vitamin C, E and citrus fruits, which are known to boost immunity. Exercise is known 

to improve the immune system and imparts fewer chances of falling ill. 

Eat smart as a family: 

Practice what you preach. Good eating habits apply to the entire family. And it's good to start early with the kids. If the parents have had an unhealthy lifestyle, then now is the time to correct their ways and start living healthy. The diet should consist of carbs, protein, healthy fats, vitamin and minerals at every meal. Snacking options should be healthy choices like fresh veggies with healthy dips, yoghurt smoothies, fresh fruits, whole grain bread snacks etc. However, it is quite okay to binge moderately once in a way and the child should be educated about harm and ill effects of eating calorie rich sinful food on everyday basis.

 Never use food as a reward: 

As children are smart and very soon they will use it as a tool to even do their homework. The rewards can be a field trip, buying a sports equipment, water sports etc. Show support through positive enforcement of right health habits. Encouraging words would help and connecting the good food habits with their health and energy would further add to motivation levels. 

Fun exercises for children: 

The number one choice would be dance as its music based and children can relate to songs and further enjoy their workout. The other exercises would be family games using props like soft ball, ropes, deck of card and paper games. In the family games, the child should be made the leader, judge or decision maker to build qualities such as individuality, administration and leadership. Apart from this trekking, animal walking, wii fit games, relay etc would be the best way to squeeze in exercises.

Just follow the steps for 2 weeks.

For sure difference will be seen easily.

Stay fit live hard.

My view on LOVE

Everyone wants to be happy in this world. But there are only a few people who are happy. Some people believe that wealth gives happiness. They spend most of their time and energy in acquiring it. But wealth does not give happiness. It provides man the 

basic amenities and materialist 

comforts of life. 

But money can't give the emotional and spiritual 

satisfaction. There are some others who seek power to gain happiness. Different 

means can be adopted to attain 

power. One may attain power in the political sphere. One may even try to become a dictator after gaining power. Some try to establish their superiority over others. But even such 

powers don't give happiness.

With 

power one can force others to do 

certain things but there is a world of difference between the action forced and spontaneous action. 

In the present age, many people are striving for happiness in sex, fashion, drinks and drugs. They wish to escape from the problem-ridden world into a world of dreams. They try to derive 

pleasure from these areas. But thy 

realize that these are temporary 

pleasures. These things may help 

people to forget their worries for a 

limited period of time but not forever. 

Most of them are harmful rather than advantageous. There is a difference between happiness and what we describe as joy and pleasure. One a warm day 

what a glass of cold lemon juice gives you is pleasure because it is a momentary joy. On the other hand happiness is experienced in the mind and is therefore infinitely more powerful. 

Only a few know the secret of true 

happiness. It is love that makes man happy. It is love between children and parents, wife and husband, brother and sister, 

lover and his beloved, the 

teacher and the student and the 

master and the servant.  

Love is the storehouse of happiness. 

Love should be practiced without any selfish motive. One who makes other happy by loving also himself feel happy for having loved. Hatred creates enmity. It robs ones' peace of mind. A person who does not have peace of mind cannot be happy. Hatred may result in physical violence.

Crimes are more often the result of hatred. Hatred this brings unhappiness. We should learn to forgive our opponents who played dirty. Jealousy and prolonged anger are agents of death. So, one should follow the path of love to achieve happiness. Love fills a person with noble feelings: compassion, sympathy, sacrifice, understanding, welfare etc. A 

mother's love for her children is something 

very divine. She is forever ready to suffer any hardship for the happiness of her children. Love between a child and a mother is the purest form of love. Love of a mother is so deep and eternal that she can understand even those things which her child doesn't even speak.

Love alone can lessen many ills of the society. Love is the basic of a happy life. If nations of the world follow this principle, there would be no world wars, massacres or widespread destruction. Love can unite the people of the world into a common brotherhood.

Just think...

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