You'd have to be a serious
commitment-phobe to choose to live
hundreds -- or even thousands -- of
miles away from the man you love.
But
sometimes it's just not up to you.
Career, school and family are just a
few of the factors that keep lovers
whispering sweet nothings into phones
instead of each other's ears. But if you
think a relationship is doomed because
of distance, think again. According to
stats compiled by the Center for the Study of Long-Distance Relationships
(yes, there really is such a thing), the myth that most long-distance
relationships fail is just that: a myth.
The reality is that more couples are making it work than you might think.
Over thousands couples are living in separate Indian cities today, and another 700,000 LDR couples are actually married. So how do you stay close (and get even closer) when you're so far
apart? It's not simple, but it's not
impossible -- and these five tips can
help:
♥ Be clear about expectations up front.
Don't wing it; plan ahead. According to
Dr. Greg Guldner, director of the
Center for the Study of Long-Distance
Relationships and author of Long
Distance Relationships: The Complete
Guide, the difference between LDR
couples that make it and ones that
don't can be summed up in two words:
ground rules. Dr. Guldner explains that
nearly 70 percent of LDR couples who
didn't anticipate changes -- or talk
through their game plan for dealing
with them -- broke up within six
months. The most important point, of
course, is, are
we monogamous?
♥ Express yourself.
Even couples sharing the same zip
code frequently have trouble telling
each other how they feel. So imagine
how much harder it is for lovers who
can't use the power of touch to stay
connected. Dr. Gary Chapman, author
of The Five Love Languages for
Singles, says, "It's important to figure
out how to make your long-distance
partner feel cherished. This can be
done with words. For example, 'If I
were with you, I'd give you a big kiss.'"
The relationship expert adds, "Share
the day-to-day events going on in
each other's lives. This is all geared to
staying so close that when you do get
together you won't have that awkward
transition period where you feel like
strangers."
♥ Spice up the long-distance lovin'.
Sure, sex is best when you're in the
same room, and the happiest LDR
couples strive to be together as often
as possible. However, there are ways
to keep the fires flaming from a
distance. Creativity is key. That's why
Rob Frankel created
www.pillowmail.com, a site where you
can instantly compose and email each
other erotic fantasies customized with
your own dirty details.
♥ Last but not least but dont forget that
I LOVE♥ YOU.
